There are many things that we can do with our mouths – express our views, share a smile, trade sweet nothings, and (of course) give some amazing oral sex.
However, there’s a fine art to fellatio, and the perfect blowjob doesn’t just happen by sheer coincidence. As with all things, oral sex requires practice, knowledge, and technique. Thankfully, we’re going to cover all of these points and more in this article, as we offer some tips to achieve the best oral sex you can.
#1 Consider Comfort
No one wants sex to be described as just “comfortable” but your position definitely should be. If you’re in pain or your partner is in an awkward position then neither of you will be able to enjoy the experience.
Find a position that is kind on your knees and allows for a good range of motion. Make sure that whatever you’re positioned on can facilitate prolonged time in that position and consider back and neck support if you’ve positioned your partner lying down.
All good acts start with prep, and this is an essential part of the process.
#2 Don’t Be Afraid To Make Eye Contact
It may feel a bit embarrassing or intimidating at first, but giving your partner a subtle glance or an intense stare while you’ve got them in your mouth can send their heart racing. This plays of the power dynamics of the situation. Yes, oral sex might be considered as a giving act, but it can also be considered as you taking control of your partner’s size and taste for your own desires. Use eye contact to make it clear to your partner that you don’ want to miss a single moment of this experience. Plus, you’ll get the added bonus of watching them squirm with delight at your confident tasting.
#3 Don’t Be Afraid To Use Your Hands
Blowjobs and handjobs are not mutually exclusive and work incredibly well together. While your partner is in your mouth, grip the base of his shaft and form a ring. As you move your mouth up and down copy that motion with your hand, twisting at the same time.
This technique might feel awkward at first but, once you master the motion, it can be a game changer.
Use moments with your hand to break up the experience too – varying the sensations while also giving your mouth a bit of a break. The transition might also have them begging for you to bring your mouth back into action, which can add for some playfully teasing moments.
#4 Mix It Up
Long laps up the shaft, tiny flicks on the coronal ridge, shallow, rapid thrusts, and long, deep-throat moments; never be afraid to mix up your technique and you engage in fellatio. Human brains and bodies are designed to get used to familiar motions and will eventually find them less engaging. This is why travelling down a familiar route always seems to go quicker and seem less thrilling the more you traverse it. Don’t let the journey you take with a blowjob become a familiar trip; keep things varied and never stick to a single plan of action. This will mean that your partner’s mind and body will always find your actions exciting and you’ll be able to keep them in heart-pounding anticipation of where things will go next.
#5 Include Sexcessories
A climax from oral sex is incredibly gratifying, but what if it could be a combined orgasm too? This is possible with the use of a butt plug, giving P-Spot stimulation while you tend to your partner’s shaft.
Not your thing? How about a cock ring; making them firmer, larger, able to enjoy the experience for longer, and capable of experiencing a stronger climax?
From butt plugs, to cock rings, to vibrators, flavoured lubricant, and more; there is an array of different sex toys which, when added to a fellatio session, can take things in an entirely different direction.
Using a vibrator on the perineal gland or the testicles while giving oral sex can be another incredibly exciting situation. Meanwhile flavoured lube adds not just a delectable treat for yourself but also more slip n slide for riding your partner’s shaft. This changes the feel of the experience – playing further on that element of the unknown.
And for one final bonus tip…
Ask Them What Their Preference Is
All of these tips are helpful for providing a really pleasurable fellatio session but only if they work for your partner. No two people are the same, and your partner may very well have a preference or some things that they really dislike.
Mixing things up can work for others but for some it can put them on edge and take them out of the moment.
Adding a vibrator might send one person crazy and leave another confused.
Before really delving into your fellatio practice, it always pays to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what they like. Or, as an alternative, ask them what they really enjoyed after an experience and use that information to adjust your technique in future sessions.
Knowledge really is power and when it comes to fellatio, it helps to know both the techniques that are out there and exactly which ones appeal to your partner.