So you’ve looked in to the idea of online dating and you’re intrigued, but how is the best way to go about it?
Online dating is just as diverse and varied as dating through other methods which means that, much like dating in person, it can be a bit of a confusing mess to navigate.
Because of this we thought we’d offer some of our top tips for how to manage and then maintain an effective online dating profile in order to get the best out of your digital dating experiences.
#1 Make Sure That You Find The Right Platform For You
Believe it or not, the best way to have an effective dating profile happens before the profile is even set up.
Discovering and then signing up to the right platform for you will play a huge part in the overall success of your dating experiences and will shape your overall attitude to the world of online dating.
As such the best thing you can do to set yourself up for success is to essentially go on a big browsing survey of all the current dating sites that are out there, what sort of services they offer, who they seem to appeal to , and the style they use.
Once you’ve done this then you can take the time to consider which one is best for you and really commit to making the best profile possible.
Not only does this stop you from spreading yourself too thin but it also helps you reflect on your needs and what you really want.
Remember: Dating is not a passive pursuit. You have an active role to play in finding the relationship you want and you can’t afford to be complacent in such a potentially important decision.
#2 Curate To Feel Great
If you’ve found a site that you like then it’s time to hop on their and work on your profile.
Chances are, if you’ve followed our advice, you’ll have a good idea of how profiles work on your chosen site and the general style that everyone seems to be following, which will help you a lot when making your own profile reflect your personality and needs.
Let’s set something straight right now – the purpose of your profile is not to ‘stand out’ nor to be gimmicky in any way. We’re not going to suggest that you use quick tactics or ‘top tips’ in this article in order to nab yourself attention asap.
Instead focus on simply portraying an authentic depiction of yourself in a way that you feel confidently yet comfortably represents you as a person.
Gimmicks may nab people’s attention in the moment but they rarely lead to any significant dating outcomes.
Allow yourself to focus on your core values and hold a sense of integrity about your profile (even if that means admitting you’re a huge Harry Potter dork #HouseHufflepuff).
This is what will ultimately get you the connections that matter most.
#3 Respond, Respond, Respond
Yes, it’s a hassle. And, yes, sometimes it may involve hard ‘I just don’t think we’re right for each other’ conversations but it is important that, if you want to maintain an effective online dating profile you actually maintain it. That means responding to people who have sent sincere messages your way.
This serves a few purposes.
Firstly, it will allow you to communicate with those who you might be interested in – allowing you to cultivate potential relationship options – without accidentally not responding after checking a message and thinking ‘Eh, I’ll reply later’. Trust us, this happens far too easily.
Secondly, it will help keep you engaged and in the right mindset to feel like you’re actively pursuing online dating, rather than just letting the whole affair slip to the wayside.
But perhaps most importantly it’s just common courtesy to respond to people when they talk to you, especially if not doing so is tantamount to leaving them in a state of emotional distress.
With online dating it is so easy to detach from the fact that people are involved: People who may be emotionally invested in getting to know you and/or maintaining a positive relationship. It always pays to remember this because no one wants to be left in limbo for something so emotionally driven.
So if you ever find yourself wondering if you should or shouldn’t respond to someone on your online dating profile just imagine that, instead of sending you a PM, that person is in front of you saying the same thing. Would prolonged silence be appropriate in that scenario? If not then responding is probably the decent thing to do.
So There You Have It!
Follow these three simple rules and you’ll be in a strong position to create and continue to enjoy an active, meaningful, and ongoing online dating profile.
Good luck with it. We’re rooting for you!